Mel Robbins Let Them Theory Tour 2025

Are you still snoozing your alarm each morning?

My alarm goes off at 5.30 am every day, and not once this year had I managed to get up. Not once!! Despite leaving my phone on the other side of the bedroom, every day I would get up, switch off the blasted noise and dive back into bed.

Because I’m tired, because I’m miserable, because I don’t want to face my day yet, because I will be more functional at work if I just get a bit more sleep… and so it goes on with my endless, pathetic excuses.

We’re nearly halfway through the year, and despite one of my New Year’s resolutions being to take Mel Robbins’ advice to “get up when the alarm goes off”, I have failed. I well and truly missed the mark every day in 2025. For 159 days, I have let my emotions control my day. If I’m honest, 2025 has been an absolute disaster.

Cured by the Mel Robbins Let Them Theory tote bag

Until today... I got up, switched my alarm off and got back into bed. But hanging on the back of my bedroom door at the bottom of the bed was the bright green Let Them tote bag I picked up at the Mel Robbins on Tour show yesterday in London. Immediately upon seeing it, I remembered everything I had learned at the show, and I got out of bed and started writing this post.

My Let Them tote bag hangs behind my bedroom door.

Having realized the number of mornings I let my emotions dictate my actions, I am horrified and honestly disappointed in myself. I had the intention of getting up each morning to spend 30 minutes working on my side project: that means I’ve thrown away 80 hours! To think where I would be now if I had spent and invested that time the way I intended. That’s two whole working weeks to chip away at a project that would move my life forward.

Let Them… But First, Let Me Buy a Train Ticket to London

When the tickets for the Mel Robbins Let Them Theory tour went on sale, there was one helluva scramble, and they sold out in minutes! I punished my credit card and bought a VIP ticket, because if Mel Robbins was in town, I wanted to meet her. And so I ordered myself a 50th birthday present to personally say hello to this awesome woman who has had so much impact around the world through her books and podcast.

As someone who immediately leaps into “fix” things, “help” people, or “guide” situations, or say “yes” when I mean “no”, like the people-pleaser I am, the Let Them theory resonated strongly with me. And it has resonated strongly with many of you, too. It is quickly becoming the fastest, best-selling book in history, with nearly five million copies sold in six months! And yesterday, I headed to London for the Let Them tour.

The daily promise I’ve been breaking 

I met Mel virtually during the Launch 2024 programme, back when she was still writing Let Them. For six months, the Launch community watched as she worked on the manuscript with her daughter, Sawyer. Unfortunately, Mel is no longer running Launch, but the basic programme is that you commit a minimum of 15 minutes a day to work on your chosen project for a month.

Mel’s project she did alongside us, was getting up when her alarm went off to spend 30 minutes writing the Let Them theory. If you need evidence that getting up early to chip away at a project works, what better than this?

I had such big plans for 2025, and nearly half of it has slipped by already. Sadly, I have very little to show for it. It’s like when you check your bank balance, only to gasp because you frittered away a resource that could have been invested and would now be paying dividends. What a wasted opportunity to build a life I love that gives me freedom!

The wake-up call

The Mel Robbins Let Them Show was incredibly funny; she has an awesome sense of humour, but it was also deeply impactful. At the beginning of the show, Mel asked us to complete the sentence, “This is the year I …”.

Mel Robbins: This is the year I... What is the dream you will manifest in 2025?

Several things came up for me, and I could immediately see that I’d have made progress on them if I had got up when my alarm went off. A bed was wheeled on stage, and she climbed under the duvet to make the point about staying in bed and letting your feelings decide your life.

If I stay in bed until the last minute, I’m then under so much pressure to get ready and walk the dog before I start work. Forget the morning routine, forget working on my project and setting myself up for the day. Not only have I let myself down, but I also made my mornings stressful and, to be honest, miserable. For 159 days, I’ve made myself miserable because of one small but crucial decision.

Why is it so difficult to get out of bed?

When you don’t want to face your day, it can feel like the hardest thing to simply stay awake and get out of bed. But it’s probably the most important decision you make each day because it sets the tone for the rest of the day and also the trajectory of your life.

The trouble is, as soon as we wake, we think about all the reasons not to get out of bed. Our emotions and feelings follow, and within seconds, we feel negative and want to go back to sleep. Snoozing doesn’t make the feelings go away.

Mel Robbins: Get up when your alarm goes off if you want to change your life.

This is especially true if you have a job you don’t enjoy. But if you get up when the alarm goes off and spend some time investing your time in yourself, the job doesn’t feel so awful anymore. In fact, it can feel enjoyable. If you’ve not tried this, then do it!

Spending just 15-30 minutes on something you are passionate about or that creates relief (it might be dealing with paperwork or decluttering a room), gives a boost of positive energy you won’t find by repeatedly hitting the snooze button and avoiding your life.

Use this tool to get yourself out of bed when the alarm goes off

Why is it so hard to get out of bed? Because you give yourself too much time to think about your emotions instead of applying the 5-Second Rule - another science-backed tool from Mel Robbins - and just getting up. Count 5-4-3-2-1 as soon as you think about hitting snooze and get up.

Interestingly, the negative feelings I had when I woke up have lessened, even if they haven’t disappeared. What is more important, though, I have taken action despite them. I might not want to do my day job, or make those phone calls I’ve been putting off, or whatever is on my to-do list today, but I feel so much better for working on my life first thing and prioritizing myself.

Do what you hate to get what you want

Mel made the point that if we did all the things we didn’t want to do, like getting out of bed to work on a personal project, we’d have the things we want. How can we argue with this? If we ate the healthy food, did the workout, wrote 200 words a day on that book we’ve been talking about writing, we’d have the thing we want.

When we’re in the midst of negative emotions, it’s so easy to give in to them, ignore what needs to be done, procrastinate and avoid reality, and repeat the same day as yesterday. But if we get up when the alarm goes off, work on a project, whether looking for a new job, sorting our finances, or starting that business, we’d be creating the life we dream of.

The lies we tell ourselves

Mel made the point that when we go through challenging times, we often tell ourselves, "This is how the rest of my life will be". Her big turning point was when she was 41, and she and Chris were $800 in debt. She lost her job and was coping by drinking too much and ignoring the problems. The photo below shows all the weeks you have if you live to be 100. At 41, it was easy for her to think this was a permanent situation, and the remaining time in red would be equally bad.

Never think that the rest of your life will be the same as it is today.

But it’s not, and Mel is proof that we can turn our lives around, fulfil our dreams and have our best life yet. Life changes when we take action over emotion and work at building the life we want. Nothing stays the same, and we have the power to change it, however bad things feel right now. And I know this intimately because I’m in the midst of a miserable divorce and selling my home. I'm starting again at 50.

The Let Them Mindset

I know I need the Let Them mindset badly. Let them say what they want. Let them exclude me. Let them do what makes them happy. It’s easy to want to control and micro-manage everything and everyone around you; it’s the perfect avoidance tactic for not dealing with your own life. For many of us, it has been a lifelong habit, but finally, we have a cure.  

Think back on your life and how many times using Let Them would have given you freedom from attaching to other people’s opinions or actions. It is liberating to no longer try to fix or control every situation, and that free time and energy can be invested back into our own lives. The effectiveness of this mindset is reflected in the number of Let Them tattoos that fans have been inking into their bodies to remind them to live by this mantra.

The Let Me Mindset

After using Let Them to release other people and situations we can’t control, the Let Me theory comes in. Let me follow my dreams. Let me stop holding back until conditions are perfect. Let me be less responsible for everyone else’s stuff. This is where we need to take control and live the life that we want, regardless of what others think or say.

Let them think what they want as I start my new business, post on social media, or plan to travel the world. As Mel said, “The only person you need to show up for is you”. We Let Them think or say what they want, then Let Me do what I need to do.

Is it Worth Seeing Mel Robbins Live?

Seeing Mel Robbins Let Them Theory live on tour was probably the most expensive day out I’ve had, but wow, I’m so glad I did it. If you’re already a fan and listen to her podcast, you’ll know she always finishes by saying, “In case nobody has told you today, let me be the first to say that I love you, I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life”. At the end of the show, she said this while choking up. If you’re like me and don’t have anyone to tell you they love you, then you understand how important this is to hear.

Another one off the bucket list: meeting Mel Robbins in London at the Let Them show tour 2025.

Mel reminded us that we’re allowed to stop micromanaging every corner of our lives… and everyone else’s. The most important thing we need to do is focus on ourselves. Seeing this show has turned my life around, and that bright green tote bag is now a permanent reminder to keep going.

Will you make the commitment with me?

Now that I’m awake, I feel great! Ok, my brain is a bit fuzzy from waking earlier than usual, but I’m proud of myself. When I climbed back into bed and looked at the tote bag on the back of my door, I thought about how I would feel if I didn’t get up and imagined the disappointment in myself. I’ve committed to getting up when my alarm goes off and to working on my project.

Now I can take the dog out and start my day knowing that my highest priority task (aside from the dog) is already ticked off my list. I feel alive and relieved of stress. I’ve started my day doing something I love that I would never have done if I’d hit snooze half a dozen times and told myself “I can do it later”. Because later isn’t guaranteed, and I never seem to get around to it.  

And that, my friends, is major progress. Tomorrow morning, when the alarm goes off, JFDI and get up. Now, let me make a coffee…